Author of “So You Thought You Knew” and “The Secret to Awesomeness”

September 6, 2015

#006 Darrel Ray: Sex and God (How Religion Distorts Sexuality)


What is the impact of religion on human sexuality?

You see, growing up in the church, I was told all the dos and don'ts of sexuality for "Bible-believing" Christians. Yet, ironically, some of the preachers I'd listen to would contradict one another when it came to "how far" one can go sexually, both before and after marriage. And some would even commit the very "sins" they'd passionately condemn at the pulpit.

Why was there so much hypocrisy going on in the church?
And why were so many of my [natural] sexual desires considered "sinful" in the eyes of God?

In this episode, I have an honest chat with psychologist and author, Dr. Darrel Ray. And let me tell ya, we don't shy away from any topics here.

So put your kids to sleep (if you have any) ... and let's talk about sex, baby.


• Why are so many people afraid to talk about sex?
• How has religion shaped our culture and sexual development?
• How is religion often an excuse for bad behavior?
• What's the difference between guilt and shame?
• Why do even non-religious people struggle with guilt and shame when it comes to sexuality?
• Talk about masturbation for a bit. Are there any benefits to it?
• What are some ways parents can address the topic of sex to their kids?
• What have you discovered in your research about porn and porn addiction?
• What would you tell someone who's struggling with shame right now?


Sex and God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality (FREE when you try Audible for 30 days)

The God Virus: How Religion Infects Our Lives and Culture

Darrel’s Talk on “The Myth of Sex Addiction”

Sex Education For All Ages Interview With Dr. Melanie Davis

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August 31, 2015

#005 Ryan Bell: A Year Without God - What Does He Believe Now?


A Year Without God?

Yup, at the end of 2013, former pastor Ryan Bell announced he was gonna "try on" atheism for a year. And boy, it didn't take too long for the media to take notice.

So what made a life-long Christian, who pastored for nearly 20 years, do such a thing?

Well, it's been over a year since his experiment began, and I had the opportunity to chat with him at his home in Pasadena, California.

So get ready ... this episode is sure to get you thinking.


• What events led to your  "Year Without God"?
• What difference does God make?
• How do you respond to skeptics?
• Did you ever "pray" during your atheist experiment?
• Why not "A Year Without Christianity?" instead of God?
• Why atheism? Why not deism? Pantheism?
• How would you define the God you reject?
• How did your "year without God" affect your family?
• How did the atheist community influence your journey?
• Do you ever miss the old notion of God you used to have? (e.g., a loving father, provider)
• Do you ever feel like your religious years were all a waste?
• What would it take for you to believe in God again?


Ryan's Bell Blog "A Year Without God"

Ryan's Facebook

(FREE Audiobook Download) God Is Not Great: How Religion Poisons Everything 

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August 25, 2015

#004 The Real Reasons Why We Believe


What do you believe?

Wait a minute, let me ask that question again. What do you really believe?

In other words, have you ever claimed to “believe” in a particular idea or creed, yet in your heart, you really didn’t believe?

Or have you ever tried to believe in something because you were supposed to believe in it, yet in your mind, it didn’t make any sense to you at all?


• The senior project on “Christianity” that changed my life
• Some possible reasons why we believe
• Whether or not we choose our beliefs
• How to recognize our blind spots
• How our environment influences our beliefs?
• Two powerful factors that impact a person’s belief
• Is a God who demands you to “believe or burn” being unfair?


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August 18, 2015

#003 The Hidden Message Behind Religion


What is behind every message you hear?

In other words, what drives a person to share what they wanna share?

And once a person responds to a certain message, what motivates him or her to do what they do?


• The sad (yet funny) story of when I was "left behind"
• How much of organized religion is running things
• The problem with the "good news"
• Why the so-called "unconditional" love of God is really conditional
• The different motivations for belief
• Why the "Christian" God is schizophrenic

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August 5, 2015

#002: Religious Passion Without Compassion



What's the first thing that comes to mind when you hear that word?


Have you ever had someone share their "religion" with you? If so, how was their approach?

Have you ever shared your ideas with someone else? If so, how was your approach?

Does a person's approach even matter? Or is it all about a person's content?


• The incident of the two passionate men to who tried converting me
• A discussion about passion, truth, and sincerity
• Examples of ineffective approaches to conversations
• Whether it's "right" or "wrong" to make judgments
• If tolerance is always the answer to disagreements


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Russell Brand Interviews Westboro Baptist Church

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July 29, 2015

#001: Why I Started This Show … and Asking the Big “What If?”


Yup, that's right! I created a new podcast called The Flipside.

New title.
New style.
New everything.

Why? Well, you gotta listen to find out!

In this first episode you'll hear:

• Why I decided to create a new podcast
• A bit of my journey (for all the newbies)
• Why I've been on the "down-low" these days
• My goal for the show

Links and Resources Mentioned in this Episode

• My books So You Thought You Knew and The Secret to Awesomeness

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June 24, 2015

The Power of THOUGHT & The Secret Laws of The Universe!


I was recently interviewed by Coach Carla on the Vibrant Living Show. We discuss the laws of the universe, the power of our minds, and the ability to create reality.

Listen in and be encouraged today!

June 8, 2015

How To Beat Procrastination Like A Boss!


We can spend a lot of time convincing ourselves that that "thing" we wanna do ... that "thing" that gets us "pumped up" and excited ... could wait. And we come up with a bunch of reasons of why we can't do it now.


Here's how to beat it. (watch video)

June 1, 2015

How to Overcome Fear In Seconds


Do you sometimes fear the future? Worry about money? Become anxious about life? Well, I have a simple tip that can help you overcome your fear in seconds.

May 25, 2015

How to Make a Difference in the World EVERY DAY (It’s Easier Than You Think!)


Sometimes watching the news on television can sometimes make it feel like the world is a horrible place to live in. And it can even sometimes make you wonder if there's any hope for humanity at all.

We all wanna make a difference in this world--which is good--but some of us just don't know where to start.

Well ... it's simple. Here's what you can do (watch video)

May 18, 2015

You Are Good Enough!


“Im not good enough.”

Have YOU ever felt that way? I know I have. And so has everyone else.

 Check out this encouraging message to help start off your week.

May 11, 2015

IS GOD GUILTY? The Dangers of Religious Belief


A lot of people these days are accusing the Christian God (along with his followers) of being
hateful, exclusive, judgmental, and violent.

Is God guilty? And why do God and his followers tend to look alike?

May 8, 2015

A BIG MISTAKE “Open-Minded” Christians Make | I Dare You to Do This…


Growing up as a Christian, I have always considered myself an open-minded person … until I realized that I kept assuming–no matter what–one thing.

And this one thing kept me from truly learning from others. Let this give you something to think about.

May 5, 2015

What if Christianity is a Lie?


Have you ever asked yourself this very important (and possibly uncomfortable) question?

Whether Christianity is true or false, have you, as an individual, looked into the historicity and teachings of the Christian faith?

For some people, asking the “WHAT IF?” question will change their lives forever.

April 19, 2015

FORGIVE YOURSELF IN 3 MINUTES! - Find it Hard to Change? Here’s Why


Struggling a lot with guilt and shame? Desiring to become a better person? Here's the secret.

April 7, 2015

How to Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind and Experience Its Power


Here's a reading of the "Subconscious Mind" chapter from my book "The Secret to Awesomeness.

Thanks to the YouAreCreators channel for creating the audio chapter with music.

Narrator: Joshua Tongol

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